The Evolution of My Bookshelves

Before my father built my hanging bookshelf and turned my dream into reality, my books were just carefully stacked on top of my study table.

March 2014

I started collecting books in March 2014. I was reading John Green’s Looking for Alaska when an inspiration hit me: I wanted to create my own version of Alaska Young’s Life’s Library. Here’s what my books looked like back then:

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The Beginning Stages of Airen Petalbert’s Life’s Library

The Airen Petalbert’s Life’s Library included The Morganville Vampire Series, a thesaurus, dictionaries, Dan Brown books, English language books, and some Norman Vincent Peale books, among others.

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My friends and I at the ATC Warehouse Sale

When National Bookstore announced that a warehouse sale was about to take place at their Quezon Avenue branch, my best friend and I grabbed our almost-empty wallets and went on a book shopping spree.

However, it seemed that NBS was desperate to clean their warehouses before the year closed. They launched another series of warehouse sales at different branches, including Alabang Town Center. The previous warehouse sale made a hole in my wallet, but thanks to my friends who lent me some money, I was able to take home a bagful of books.

December 2014

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The Domino Effect

After many visits to different branches of Book Sale, nine months’ worth of savings from my daily allowance, and Scholastic Publishing’s warehouse sale, my book stack couldn’t hold the weight of my babies anymore. On my Instagram post, I called it the “domino effect.”

My collection now includes the John Green Boxed Set, the Hunger Games series, some Oxford classics, complete Jane Austen books, Pride and Prejudice fan fiction books, some YAs, and more classics. The books on the first layer were all classics. The stack on the right side were all English language reference books.

When I posted the photo above on Instagram, one of my friends suggested that I buy a bookshelf. I knew beforehand that that was the most practical thing to do, but I liked seeing my books stacked up like this on top of my study table. Also, I didn’t think my room could accommodate another tenant–my room was already cramped with my and my sisters’ stuff. It was only when my friend debated the pros of having a bookshelf that I  finally considered it.

My Malnourished Book Tree

As the plan was not attainable at the moment, I settled for an out-of-the-box idea that’s also a space-saver. And since Christmas was just around the corner, the timing couldn’t be more perfect. I turned my stack into a book tree and embellished it with low-cost Christmas decorations.

I know that the tree looked malnourished, but this was the best I could do after so many failed attempts. I had to call my younger siblings to help me figure out which books should go where. Stacking up books of different weights and sizes to form the shape of a pine tree was easier said than done, to be honest. It took a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to build them up. We spent almost three hours for this poor thing only to come up with a malnourished tree. Poor me (and poor tree).

November 2015

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When the new year came, I became so occupied with school activities. As a graduating student, I had to prioritize my school requirements and this meant less time and money for books. Time went so fast–I graduated and became employed, but during all those times I had no new books.

Thanks to National Bookstore and their desperation to sell flop books at discounted prices, the book hauler in me was finally able to get back in the game. They held a warehouse sale in August, which allowed me to bring home 16 books for just  P1,100.00. Here’s my haul:

2015 NBS Warehouse Sale Haul

December 2015

It was December once again and Christmas was only a few weeks away. After a one-year hiatus, I tried to up my book decorating game once again. This time, the result was satisfying. First, let me take a selfie.

Selfie sa Book Tree

I also bought Christmas decorations at Divisoria to breathe life into the tree. On the following day, I bought fake flowers, a star, and Christmas lights. Here’s my masterpiece:

My Beautiful Book Tree

July 2016

My father returned from Saudi in July 2016. On my graduation day, he promised to give me a Harry Potter book set, but we had to prioritize my graduation fees. When he arrived home, I was surprised when he handed me a big Duty Free plastic bag and said, “Di ko alam kung meron ka na niyan.” I didn’t have the slightest idea what was inside the plastic bag so I was at loss for words when I saw books. And mind you, they were not just books–they were THE Harry Potter Bloomsbury Edition books.

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My Harry Potter Bloomsbury Edition Books

On the following day, I decided to stack my books on top of my cabinet. Here’s what the pile looked like:

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My Book Pile

As of writing, my collection includes more than 250 books. Some books were never returned to me by ex-friends. Yup, I burn bridges with people who do not understand my love and passion for books. My high school best friends never returned my copies of The Book Thief and Looking for Alaska, two of my most treasured books. Since then, I decided it’s friendship over for us.

Some people who borrowed my books did not handle them with care. There was one girl who even left a ketchup stain on my copy of Paper Towns. One girl returned my paperback copy of The Fault in Our Stars with a torn cover. I unfriended them all on social media.

“You can’t buy happiness but you can buy books, and that’s kind of the same thing.”

For me, happiness = books and books = happiness. I’d rather have books than friends.

September 2016

Two months later, my father started working on my bookshelf. My mother suggested a hanging bookshelf and I agreed without hesitation. I could only imagine how beautiful the result would be.

One day, I came home from work exhausted, but my mood was instantly lifted when I was greeted by my new bookshelf. I was like a kid in a candy shop when I saw the spectacle before me. I also loved the new colors of my walls. It was worth the wait, after all.

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My Hanging Bookshelves

[Update] October 2016

The photo above was taken last September. My shelf now includes these amazing finds that I bought (at a discounted price, of course) at NBS Tutuban:

Classic Libraries

[Update] November 2016

On October, my friends, boyfriend, and I went to Pasig to check out the Anvil Grand Christmas Sale. Here’s what my shelves looked like after adding my hauls. Read my blog post about the event for more details.

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My Hanging Bookshelves Plus More Books

[Update] December 2016

Instead of embellishing my room with Christmas decorations, my family decided it would be better if we invest in something that would last. I chose this The Beatles mural, which my siblings painted on my wall. For more information about this family project, see my blog post about this.

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My Hanging Bookshelves & The Beatles On My Wall

[Update] July 2017

So, I finally decided to arrange my books by color (hue, actually). I have two words: hirap, bes. It took me nearly three hours to accomplish this but hey, admit it: it’s worth it, right?

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AAAAND, here’s me gracing your screen with a bunch of photos featuring my face. LOL

 

Until next time, folks!

To be continued…

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10 Reasons Why an ESFP-INFP Relationship Is Bound to Last (Published on Thought Catalog)

I’m speaking from a point of view of an INFP who has been in a relationship with an ESFP for seven long years. I don’t know if the seven-year itch is taking its toll on us, but we’ve been through a lot of major fights lately. And mostly, these fights are because of our differences.

Good thing, I became so into these Myers-Briggs personality types, and thanks to the writers at Thought Catalog, I found the enlightenment that I need. Now, it all makes sense to me.

After digging deeper into the INFP and ESFP personalities, I came to the conclusion that it’s hard to make a relationship work for these two types. But when these two choose love over their differences, RSVP your attendance on their wedding as early as now because their relationship is bound to last. Let me show you what I discovered.

1. ESFPs move too fast. INFPs always need space.

ESFPs are outgoing and adventurous by nature. They always want to be on the move to try something new. Often, they get too lost in the moment that they forget to think about their partners.

Meanwhile, life can get so overwhelming at times for INFPs that they need to take a break for a while and meditate over the events that transpired.

When it comes to hobbies, ESFPs love parties and adventures while INFPs love to stay at home and get lost in the world of books.

2. ESFPs love to be around people. INFPs prefer to be left alone.

At a party, ESFPs would spark a conversation with people who come their way. ESFPs are actors who want to get everyone’s attention, and there’s nothing wrong with that. ESFPs are often the ones who bring life into any situation.

ESFPs are often the ones who bring life into any situation.

INFPs would hide in the corner, regretting why they even entertained the idea of going to the party and wishing they had stayed at home with their favorite companions: books. After all, INFPs can’t sleep until they finish the next chapter.

3. ESFPs prefer small talks. INFPs love deep, meaningful conversations.

While you, an ESFP, want to receive text messages about what your partner is doing every once in a while, your INFP partner is waiting for you to open up about your fears and dreams, to talk about how wonderful the stars and moon are tonight, to ask her progress in her current read, or to talk about the last open mic where you both went to.

INFPs don’t care about the weather, what you ate for breakfast, or if you’re stuck in heavy traffic for the nth time. They want to avoid conversations that don’t make sense as much as possible. They are deep, creative people whose minds are always filled with never-ending battles between what is right and wrong and questions without answers.

4. ESFPs are optimists. INFPs are mediators.

The best thing about ESFPs is their spontaneity. They always come up with a quick solution to a certain problem, however short-term the solution may be. These lively, always-positive people’s first line of defense is to think that a situation is no worse than it actually is, which is good in a way that when you avoid thinking about a problem, the less anxious you get.

INFPs, on the other hand, are neither pessimists or optimists. They decide whether a situation is hopeless or not based on their intuition, feeling, and perception. They don’t judge too easily.  They analyze the situation and weigh the pros and cons before actually being positive, negative, or neutral about it. They are mediators by nature.

5. ESFPs run away from problems. INFPs think too much about them.

When an ESFP and an INFP get into a fight, the ESFP would focus his attention on other things like going to parties, getting drunk, and flirting with others. ESFPs don’t like to admit to themselves that there is a problem, so rather than taking in the pain and thinking about it, an ESFP would do what he loves to do most – to be around people.

INFPs, as we mentioned earlier, are always thinking about things. When they have a problem, they overthink about it until they get the answer. INFPs are thoughtful people. They want what’s best for others, so they won’t stop thinking about a hundred different ways to solve a problem.

6. ESFPs are full of pride. INFPs are selfless people.

ESFPs have a hard time finding fault in their actions. They are always in denial and they find it difficult to swallow their pride to admit that they are wrong. Apologies? Nah. ESFPs would rather jump off a bridge than say it aloud, even though a part of them tells them that it’s time to apologize. But when they realize that they are wrong (which takes a really loooonnnngggggg time), they are more than willing to make up for their actions (and you’ll love them even more for it).

For INFPs, remember that these people would put themselves into someone else’s shoes before deciding on the situation. They are selfless individuals who would give a hundred chances before they give up on someone. And when they do something that hurts the other, an INFP would not hesitate to apologize.

7. ESFPs are attracted to physical appearance. INFPs fall for intelligence.

ESFPs want to look good themselves, so it’s normal that they look at the physical appearance when dating. And since the INFPs love intelligent conversations, they would fall for someone who reads the books they read and talks about the topics that they are interested in, among other things.

8. ESFPs are explorers. INFPs are not.

In the workplace, ESFPs would always aim for promotion because they love challenges and the thought of trying new things excite and thrill them. However, INFPs would settle for a position for as long as the job ignites their passion and fulfills their desires.

When it comes to relationships, most ESFPs are afraid of commitment because they are free spirits who do not like being placed inside a cage. For them, relationship means less time for friends, for partying, for adventures. INFPs, on the other hand, stay in a relationship no matter how good or toxic it is as long as they still see some hope in it. INFPs believe in people, in humanity. They think that someday, everything can fall into place as long as both sides are willing to work on it and adjust.

9. ESFPs are realists. INFPs are idealists.

ESFPs digest basic information but are still open to other possibilities and new options. Thus, when faced with difficult circumstances, they stay positive and go with the flow even though their heart tells them otherwise. They decide based on what’s practical and normal.

Individualities and differences are unusual to ESFPs, whereas INFPs dream of a world where people respect each other for their unique traits. For ESFPs, what you see is what you get. For INFPs, there is a meaning behind everything.

For ESFPs, what you see is what you get. For INFPs, there is a meaning behind everything.

INFPs believe that human beings are good by nature, so they see through their partner and hold on to the belief that they can help them become a better person. INFPs dream of a relationship that stands the test of time, while ESFPs stay when it’s convenient and leave when it’s difficult.

INFPs dream of a relationship that stands the test of time, while ESFPs stay when it’s convenient and leave when it’s difficult.

10. ESFPs are passionate lovers. INFPs are the MOST passionate lovers.

Despite their outgoing and careless personality, ESFPs are passionate lovers. They have extroverted thinking but introverted feelings. ESFPs may be natural flirts, but when they love, they give their best.

ESFPs may be natural flirts, but when they love, they give their best.

But of all the personality types, INFPs are the most passionate lovers. When they love, they don’t only give their best – they give their all. Sadly, there is a downside to being an INFP. No matter how passionate they can be, they are, after all, idealists. When they give their all, they expect to receive the same from their partners, which do not happen very often. INFPs are hopeless romantics who dream of happily ever afters – something that exists only in fairy tales, in books.

INFPs are hopeless romantics who dream of happily ever afters – something that exists only in fairy tales, in books.

If you want proof that opposites do attract, well, I just gave you a couple of examples. These 10 explanations, which may seem in contradiction to the title, are exactly the reasons why an ESFP-INFP relationship is one of the most interesting matches of all the MBTI. It might look too complicated at first glance, but it’s simple:

ESFPs and INFPs may want to stay in completely different worlds–ESFPs in a lively, crowded world and INFPs in a peaceful, solitary one–but their introverted feelings and perceptive abilities will always, always tell them to ignore their differences and choose love over and over and over and over again. Always. 

This was previously published on Thought Catalog and featured on Mogul

13 Rare Songs of Taylor Swift That Would Make the Perfect “Unreleased” Album

I’ve been a die-hard Swiftie ever since I first heard Teardrops on My Guitar on my aunt’s desktop computer way back in 2007. I was only 12 years old back then. Fast forward to 2016 when Taylor has had too many ex-boyfriends, has made a bad blood with different celebrities, and has changed her genre from country to pop, I still go gaga whenever she releases a new album or song. I guess that’s true love.

As a certified Swiftie, I take pride in the fact that I know something that normal people don’t: Taylor Swift’s unreleased or rare songs. I guess majority of Swifties would agree with me when I say that I would trade all the fancy things in life just to hear Taylor say that she will release an “Unreleased” album.

I know it doesn’t make sense because the songs were not called unreleased for no reason, but to see this “Unreleased” album come to life is a dream come true for every Swiftie.

“To see this ‘Unreleased’ album come to life is a dream come true for every Swiftie.”

I asked some of my fellow Swifties a question: If Taylor were to release an album with her rare songs on it, which ones would you like to see on the list? Find out the results on the list below.

13. Thirteen Blocks (Can’t Call It Love)

“Only thirteen blocks across this town to make up my mind

So I best be driving slow on my way to letting go”

I don’t think this would not be a legit list if I didn’t put Thirteen Blocks on the 13th spot. This song is about unrequited love–how a girl suddenly realizes that she “can’t call it love” if the other one is “ain’t in it.” I love how Tay used Thirteen Blocks as a metaphor for how limited her time is to decide if she’s ready to let go. It’s the song that every Swiftie should listen to when having second thoughts about letting go of a boy who doesn’t deserve your love. If I were you, I would take it from Tay: if the feeling ain’t strong, just move on and leave it in your past.

12. Permanent Marker

“X is the shape I drew through your face in permanent marker”

Permanent Marker is one of those songs that remind you that you wouldn’t want to have a bad blood with Taylor. Hurt her and she’ll write a song about you that would make you want to disappear from the world forever because I’m pretty sure that the spotlight would be on you for quite a long time. This is the Picture to Burn and Better Than Revenge of the Unreleased album.

11. Writing Songs About You

“I can’t wait for the day I stop pretending

That I’m really okay when I’m not

I wanna know how it feels to be

Over you for real

Until I do, I’ll keep writing songs about you”

Have you ever wondered why Taylor is gifted with songwriting skills? I mean, how can a human being as young as 14 years old write beautiful country songs about love, life, and heartbreak?

Well, I don’t. Knowing Tay, I guess she uses her heartbreaks as inspiration and turns her mess into a message to inspire us or, most of the time, make us cry through her songs. Writing Songs About You is the perfect example of this. It speaks about her heartache in a light way, bringing a message full of hope in the end.

10. Being With My Baby

“Ohh, life’s so sweet right here

Ohh, keeping it young and crazy

Ohh, just wanna stay right here

‘Cause nothing’s quite like being with my baby”

Now that’s the Taylor Swift that we all first fell in love with–the young country girl who loves to tell life and love stories in detail through her catchy songs. ‘Nuff said.

9. Better Off

“All my friends are saying,

‘Girl, what are you thinking?’

You’re better off, you’re better off without him”

If you haven’t heard the song yet and you see the title and the lyrics above, you’d think Better Off is about a stupid girl who fell in love with a douchebag. Truth is, this song is like Ours. You know how people throw rocks at things that shine? That’s it. The song ends with the guy saying “we don’t have to do things their way.” It’s about two people who choose to stay in love despite the many obstacles that come their way.

8. Never Mind

“All I really want to do is be next to you

But I’m too tired to fight

And I could tell you now

But then never mind”

What happens when you love someone you can’t have? You go crazy and cry. But when you’re too tired to fight like the Taylor in this song, listen to Never Mind and cry harder. Go ahead and hurt yourself even more. Because, after all, you’d rather be alone than lose him, right? The song is heartbreaking like that.

7. This Is Really Happening

“Tell me

You’ll never leave me

And I’m not crazy

And this is really happening”

Remember that time when you’re crazy in love that you feel like you are on cloud nine and you’re wondering if this is really happening or not? It’s all those wonderful things that happen when you’re in love rolled into one song. I bet you’d replay those moments in your head while playing this on repeat.

6. Dark Blue Tennessee

“Missing you like this is such sweet sorrow

Won’t you come back to me?”

It’s just a short little song, but it will let you feel all the bitterness that comes from getting left behind by someone you love so much. Dark Blue Tennessee is like All Too Well played on piano, only shorter.

5. Diary of Me 

“What you get is what you see

Baby, you hold the key

To the diary of me”

If there’s one song that would best describe Taylor, it would be Diary of Me. Each line reveals what she’s like in real life. And oh, did I mention she’s an open book? Yes, and what we get is what we see. Just one of the million reasons why we love this angel-devil, mission rebel who sometimes get temperamental.

4. I Need You Now

“I need you now

Red letters that I wrote on the wall

And the message that I left when I called”

It’s the song you should listen to if you’re longing for someone who left you hanging because Taylor’s got a message for you: you are a strong, beautiful girl and even though your world’s a little colder now, know that you’ll get warm somehow.

3. One Thing

“I want you back but it’s coming down to nothing”

When it’s time to let go of that one thing that you thought would never leave, never turn back. After all, it doesn’t always happen like it does in the movies. It’s painful to listen to, but the fact that we all can relate to her lyrics is one of the best things about Taylor Swift.

2. By The Way

“By the way

My heart’s still breaking

It’s gonna take me a while to love again”

Again, this is one of those songs that make you wonder how Taylor can write painstakingly amazing songs about heartbreak and love. She must have been really hurt to be able to write a song as heart-wrenching as this. I remember that I’ve had a phase in my life when I broke up with my boyfriend and whenever I listened to this song, I literally broke down and cried. I was only 14 then and I always pictured my ex with his new girlfriend at the school hallways whenever I listened to this.

It’s beautiful because I think it’s one of her most tragic rare songs. Unlike Permanent Marker, Thirteen Blocks, and I Need You Now where the girl eventually gets the courage to move on, the girl on this one is still clinging to the idea of picking up where they left off. It’s sad because when you think about it, most of us are like this girl after a breakup–still wondering about the what ifs and still not ready to move on and love again.

1. Sweet Tea and God’s Graces

“You can love like a sinner and lose like a winner

Nothing’s shatterproof

You can crash and burn and come back someone new

That’s what I learned from you”

Talk about the rainbow after the rain. If you’re in the mood for a song full of hope, Sweet Tea and God’s Graces is all things wonderful rolled into one. It tells us that it’s okay to get hurt because, in the end, our heartbreaks will teach us life lessons in ways far more than we can imagine.

“Our heartbreaks will teach us lessons in life in ways far more than we can imagine.”

Believe Tay when she says those nights when you cry yourself to sleep will make you a stronger person after the storm. She’s been there too many times. Now look at her: still beautiful and brave and amazing and kind and perfect. If Taylor didn’t experience those downfalls,  she could never have written these amazing songs. It would never be the same.

So, just like Tay, use your heartbreaks as inspiration to keep moving forward. Keep this in mind, Swifties: nothing’s shatterproof but you’ll get by with a cup of sweet tea and God’s graces.

“Nothing’s shatterproof but you’ll get by with a cup of sweet tea and God’s graces.”

*Featured photo used not mine

​Singletons Come Together to Watch Bridget Jones’s Baby on the Big Screen

(Spoilers Ahead)

By way of introduction, I am not a Singleton by any means. But Singleton or not, I’ve fallen head over heels for Bridget Jones’s love and life story ever since I read the first two books: Bridget Jones’s Diary and Bridget Jones: The Edge of Reason. I was lucky enough to get into a fight with my boyfriend (ironically) when the third movie came out, so I took the opportunity to go to the movie theater alone. I did not regret a single thing. In fact, I actually loved the experience. Here’s why:

Bridget Jones’s Baby was screened in selected Philippine cinemas and I chose Robinsons Place Manila because it was the nearest mall to me. When I found out from ClickTheCity’s website that the movie was to be screened in the mall’s Cinema 1, I knew right there and then that this was the perfect place to be. The cinema houses only like a hundred seats and it rarely ever gets full. As an introvert, I would NEVER watch a movie in a theater if it’s full of people–annoying and pretentious people to be exact–which is always the case with mainstream films (Star Cinema, MMFF, Marvel, and the likes) and mainstream indie (yup, it’s a thing nowadays) films like the movies in Cinemalaya.

As you would have guessed, the cinema was not even half full. There were only like 30 of us and as expected, ALL of us were WOMEN. I was not surprised at all. When I pictured myself going to the cinema house earlier that day, I saw a place full of Singletons who see themselves as Bridget Jones in real life.

The Bridget Jones movies were not blockbuster hits in the Philippines, so I guess the people who came to watch the third movie were either those who have read the books, those who have watched the first two movies and loved it, those who have both read the books and watched the movie and went head over heels for them, and those who review movies for a living.

As I scanned the place, I saw women who went alone, women in groups, and even one pregnant woman who went on her own. I think these women went to see the movie because they can relate to Bridget Jones for a number of reasons. I did. In fact, I think we all did.

I think it’s safe to say that majority of us who watched the third installation can see a reflection of ourselves in Bridget Jones: the clumsy, awkward hopeless romantic who keeps a diary to keep track of her accomplishments but life always gets in the way to ruin her plans so she ends up being alone most of the time (even, as she stated in the movie, when she and Darcy were together). When our favorite heroine appeared on the screen, I knew. In that moment, Bridget Jones was all of us.

In that moment, Bridget Jones was all of us.

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Bridget’s Big Comeback and Her Big Problems: Two Boys and a Big Bump

Enter the new and improved Bridget Jones on the big screen. We all felt sorry for Daniel Cleaver, but laughed our heads off when our favorite heroine started acting like her normal self: the woman who speaks and moves awkwardly in front of people. When All By Myself started playing in the background on her 43rd birthday, we knew that our Bridget Jones was back.

Things are going quite well as Bridget celebrates her 43rd birthday. She’s single again, but her life has been fine without Darcy–Bridget is now a big-time television producer. But no matter how hard she tries to be happy in the company of her friends and family, Bridget must face the truth this time: she is not getting any younger. At the age of 43, she might lose her last chance to conceive a baby. All of her friends were already married and having children. Though she won’t admit it, our poor heroine is alone again.

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But life has its own way of reminding us of our past in the most unexpected ways. Bridget bumps into Mark Darcy for the first time after their breakup–only this time, he’s with his wife. We all thought that the quiet Mark Fitzwilliam Darcy, whom we fell in love with in the first two movies, is the one true love of our much-loved protagonist. Sadly, they broke up because Darcy had been busy with his work, leaving Bridget feeling alone most of the time.

When Bridget’s friend Miranda takes her to a music festival for a birthday treat, they made a deal that Bridget would have sex with the first man that she stumbles upon. Here comes our dashing debonair who goes by the name Jack Qwant, the billionaire who owns a dating site that matches couples according to the algorithm of love. And knowing how things come and go in Bridget’s life, they met in the most awkward (and disgusting) way–by falling into the mud.

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Bridget and Miranda let their hair down at the music festival until they get drunk and accidentally went their separate ways. Miranda finds herself making out with Ed Sheeran, while our Bridget finds herself entering the wrong tents trying to find her lost friend. Thanks to the Gods above, she ends up in the tent of our handsome Jack. As expected, they had passionate sex between the sheets. Next morning, Bridget again finds herself alone.

Like the past two movies, the film made me feel a roller coaster of emotions. I laughed so hard, especially when Ed Sheeran, one of my favorite singer-songwriters, appeared. I personally liked how Bridget, a 43-year old woman who tried her best to act cool, to look and feel young, and to let her hair down at a music festival, failed at the “look young” part when she did not recognize Ed Sheeran. I was amazed at how the writers and director presented the irony and the truth–that Bridget is getting old and that she already needs to settle down but there she was: enjoying life and setting aside the loneliness that comes from being alone but still worried that she might end up like this for the rest of her life. It was also the choices of songs like Thinking Out Loud by Ed Sheeran and Gangnam Style by Psy that helped present the irony of the situation.

Things go back to normal as the two ladies go home. A good news welcomes Bridget this time–one of her friends invites her to become the godmother of her child. As it turns out, the godfather is the one and only Mr. Mark Darcy.

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Here comes the most kilig moment for me: Darcy kisses Bridget instead of the baby when the photographer urges them to try to look happy because it is, after all, a christening and not a funeral. I even made the screenshot of that scene my cover photo on Facebook because you see, I’m at a loss for words until now.

Being the only godparents in the event, the past lovers are forced to talk to each other. Things are awkward until Darcy invites Bridget to get some air. Now, we see the sparks of an old flame coming to life again. Bridget finds out that Darcy and his wife divorced and they kiss and kiss and kiss and kiss and kiss and kiss and make love upstairs.

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Bridget Rose Jones is now pregnant, and she’s never been happier in her entire life. Now the big question is, who is the daddy? Is it Jack Qwant, the sweet debonair, or Mark Darcy, Bridget’s could-have-been-hubby?

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I won’t go into details now because I don’t want to spoil you (if you want to know the ending, go watch the movie). I’m ending this by giving you a hint:

Jack Qwant is the prince charming that every woman wants to marry. Rich, handsome, sweet, and affectionate–it’s all things beautiful rolled into one. He even asked Bridget to come and live with him to start a family. Mark Darcy, on the other hand, loves Bridget beyond words, but his responsibility as a dedicated lawyer always gets in the way. The differences of Mark Darcy and Bridget Jones made their relationship even more difficult to handle. But whoever turns out to be the father of the baby, our favorite heroine is bound to get her happy ever after. She deserves it, though. We all do.

If you are a Bridget Jones at heart, continue to be yourself because there are so many of us out here who believe in the good and beauty in you. If Bridget Jones can find her own happy ending, so can you. Believe me, so can you.

If Bridget Jones can find her own happy ending, so can you.

Thoughts on Marilyn French’s The Women’s Room

“The Women’s Room was in its time a modern allegorical novel that offered piercing insight into the social norms accepted so blindly and revered so completely.”

As I turned each page of this book, I could not help but curse this world for letting selfish,  egoistic men rule over women. Perhaps these creatures are just turning a blind eye toward the topic of sexism, but I guess it’s time they understand that the cultural accretions about men being superior to women are wrong on so many levels.

When I reached the ending, I was infuriated at the author for failing me because, I, from the very beginning, hoped that this book would prove that my understanding of men was wrong; that sexism can be defeated after all; that this world is not hopeless for a change; and that true equality can still be achieved. As much as I hate the author for being so casually cruel and honest at the same time, and despite the fact that this book was a work of fiction, I get it.

You see, this book gave me hope when I was reading it–hope that people, men and women alike, will one day realize that male domination is an insult to our gender. However, as I came across the ending, it slapped me hard in the face with the sad reality that what Marilyn French said in the preface of the book is true:

“The single belief that all world religions and nation-states share, whatever their deity or economic system, is male domination. To challenge the assumption that men are by nature or divinity entitled to superiority over women is to challenge the core of almost every society in existence.”

I don’t always want to lend my books to others, but this is the book that I’d like to share with all women, and apparently, with all men that I know.