If there is one thing that all introverts can agree on, it’s that we love to be alone. However, there are days when we feel this acute loneliness and it is especially hard to ignore this feeling during Valentine’s Day.
On this day, couples are everywhere and the mere sight of them doing romantic things together may trigger the FOMO. Here are things you can do to crush the fear of missing out:
1. Date Yourself
Who says only lovers can treat themselves on February 14? You can cook your favorite meal or experiment with a new recipe to spice things up a bit. If you are not a fan of cooking, you can order from a cozy restaurant that you haven’t tried before then have the mouthwatering food delivered right to your doorstep. This way, you can devour a delicious meal on your own sans the struggle of dealing with the crowd.
Sounds good? How about you turn that television on and watch your favorite film or series? It doesn’t have to be romantic if you don’t want it to. Just focus on the scenes and savor each bite of your food to wash out any feeling of loneliness and you have a good chance of actually enjoying the day.
2. Do Your Best Work
If you are going to spend the Valentine’s Day alone, why not make the most out of it? One way to feel good about yourself is to do what you love doing best. Are you the type who loves getting lost in the world of fictional characters? Or are you the introvert who loves making those fictional stories?
Whether you are a bookworm, a writer, an artist, or what have you, do what you love doing best and forget about everything. Keep the idea of Valentine’s Day out of your mind, channel your spirit animals, and focus your energy and attention on your work. Who knows, you can even do your best work on this day.
3. Challenge Yourself
Most introverts are confined within their own comfort zones, always unsure of whether or not to try new things. This Valentine’s Day, it’s time to unleash your inner beast. Try doing something different. Think of an activity that you can do on your own that does not involve too much social interaction.
Finish that book in one reading. Start writing the book of your dreams. Paint that new–generation Van Gogh masterpiece. Organize a DIY travel project, visit the beach, hike the mountain—you name it.
Grab this opportunity to take one item off your bucket list. Does it involve kissing a stranger? Or perhaps you have been thinking about hitting up your long-time crush? Go ahead. You will remember this day not as Valentine’s Day but as the day you overcame your worst fears.
4. Celebrate Self-Love
Contrary to the belief that Valentine’s Day is the day of lovers, it is actually a day to celebrate love in general. We introverts are used to being alone—in fact, solitude is one of our favorite words in the dictionary. But when the thought of being a Singleton strikes you on Valentine’s Day, it’s best to remember that you are a strong, independent human being that can handle things on your own.
We know it sounds cliché, but the first step to learning how to love others is to love yourself. If you’ve been busy at school or work, you can take this moment to contemplate about your accomplishments, your dreams, and even your fears.
Have you been entertaining negative thoughts lately? Create a game plan that will help you become the best you can be. Lastly, always remember that no one can help you but yourself. Celebrate self-love this Valentine’s Day and you’ll thank yourself for it later.
This was originally published on Introvert Diaries