Forget Taylor Swift, Lily Allen Is the Real Queen of Ex-Shaming

I hate the fact that Taylor Swift is getting all the media attention for being that singer who bashes her ex-boyfriends through her songs while Lily Allen is sitting pretty for getting away with her boy-shaming schemes because honestly? I think Lily Allen is the real queen.

Don’t get me wrong. I am a die-hard Swiftie and I love Lily so much that I almost considered her as my spirit animal when my boyfriend acted way too cute that I wanted to punch him in the face. But if you’d ask me who could write better spot-on, boy-bashing songs than Taylor, I’d say it’s none other than the fucking classy British singer, Lily Allen. I mean, how many times did Lily drop the F-bomb in her songs to describe how fucked up those dickheads were? If you loved Amy Dunne of Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn, say hello to our new queen.

Allow me to enlighten your dumb ass.

Not Fair

Just when you thought you’ve found the man of your dreams
Here comes the #BigReveal that will make you think twice about him
Sure, he treats you with respect, but he never makes you scream
Poor darling, let the lyrics do the talking:

I lie here in the wet patch
In the middle of the bed
I’m feeling pretty damn hard done by
I spent ages giving head

When we go up to bed
You’re just no good
It’s such a shame

You’re supposed to care
But you never make me scream
You never make me scream

If you’re like the woman in this song who cares about her sexual pleasure, you go girl. Because according to Sofia Jawed-Wessel, “A woman who prioritizes her sexual needs is scary, because a woman who prioritizes her sexual needs prioritizes herself. That is a woman demanding that she be treated as an equal. Sounds like something that Amy Dunne would say, right?

Listen to the song here.

Not Big

When you and your beau didn’t come undone, there’s no better revenge than to tell the world how he didn’t make you come. Not Big is every girl’s anthem when paying a special tribute to that poor Lil’ Billy. That’s worse than savage if you ask me.

Alright, how would it make you feel if I said you never made me cum?
In the year and a half that we spent together
Yeah, I never really had much fun

I’m gonna tell the world you’re rubbish in bed now
And that you’re small in the game

You’re not big, you’re not clever
No, you ain’t a big brother
Not big whatsoever

Shots fired. And in case you’re not satisfied with the small-penis-shaming that happened over there, here’s more (also, imagine Amy Dunne speaking to Nick while reading this and slap me if didn’t creep the hell out of you):

I’m sorry if you feel that I’m being kinda mental
But you left me in such a state
But now I’m gonna do what you did to me
I’m gonna reciprocate

Is that you, Amy? Listen to the song here to find out.

Smile

I don’t know about you, but if my man cried in front of me after cheating on me, I’d feel bad at first but I’d be glad to see him drowning in the pool of his own misery. Ha ha. Read on to find out what Lily thinks:

At first when I see you cry
Yeah, it makes me smile, yeah, it makes me smile
At worst, I feel bad for a while
But then I just smile, I go ahead and smile

Stop wallowing in self-pity, girl and listen to the song here instead.

Fuck You

Sick and tired of that asshole who 1) has a tiny mind 2) thinks being gay is not okay 3) is a racist 4) is slow-minded? We’ve found your soon-to-be-favorite song. Fuck You is one classy, stylish way of cursing your ex because the singer is British and, let’s admit it: everything, even curses and swear words, becomes classy when spoken in British. And in case you’re forgetting, it’s Lily Allen, dear sir, so it sounds extra classy. *winks*

So you say
It’s not okay to be gay
Well I think you’re just evil
You’re just some racist who can’t tie my laces
Your point of view is medieval

You say, you think we need to go to war
Well you’re already in one,
‘Cause it’s people like you
That need to get slew
No one wants your opinion

Fuck you
Fuck you very, very much
‘Cause we hate what you do
And we hate your whole crew

‘Cause your words don’t translate and it’s getting quite late
So please don’t stay in touch

Repeat fuck you 10,000x

So I almost literally wrote the entire lyrics there except for the lines below. I’ve got some revelation for you:

Do you get
Do you get a little kick out of being slow-minded?
You want to be like your father
It’s approval you’re after
Well that’s not how you find it

Did you think of Amy while reading those lines? Because I did. Except that Nick Dunne did not want to be like his father (he just naturally became one when he began hating Amy). Creepy, huh? Now listen to the song here.

If you’re bothered by this post’s level of sarcasm, fuck you. It’s about time we girls get real about the dickheads in our lives and thanks to Lily Allen, we can just dedicate these songs to them instead of publicly shaming them (as if the former is different from the latter).

I don’t care what you think, but for me, Taylor Swift and Lily Allen are two of the most feminist singers in the music scene. If you’ve watched or read Gone Girl, you’d agree with me in this statement: Flynn, Allen, and Swift would make influential ambassadresses for a feminist movement.

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The Fab Four on My Wall: A Family Project

Last September (my birthday month), my family worked together to build a hanging bookshelf inside my room. It was one of those activities that bring a family closer together and  I’m glad that my parents and siblings contributed to the project not only because they wanted to fulfill my birthday wish, but because they were into creative activities as well.

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Me and my hanging bookshelves

Recently, we brought out our creative juices once again to give my wall a makeover. This time, we added a touch of classic to my wall.

If you’ve been following my blog, you’d know that in one of my previous posts about the evolution of my bookshelves, I immediately thought of painting my wall as soon as my shelf was ready. Sadly, it took us three months before we could finally turn my vision into reality. My sister Jenniza had been busy with her studies and work and my younger brothers waited for her go signal before they embarked on this creative endeavor.

I knew that Jenniza’s workload won’t get any lighter soon, so I decided to leave the task in the hands of our bunso. Andrew was more than willing (and excited even) to take the lead, so I had no problem with him. All I did was give him the blueprint with a P200.00 as bribe (lol) and he already had the sketch ready after two days. My father helped him do the sketch and it turned out perfectly well. Jenniza gave it a final touch.

Here’s a picture of them working on the sketch and painting my wall:

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We had a great time working together even though my role was merely to judge their work, pinpoint their mistakes, praise the final output, and boast about it on my blog. That’s how creative directors should act, right? I just did my job.

The best thing about this project was that all of us contributed to make it perfect. My mother and grandmother entered my room every now and then to catch a glimpse of the WIP and help in their own little ways like bringing the washcloth near the painters. My father helped with the sketch, Joshua, my younger brother, helped paint the silhouette of George’s face, and Angelica and Adrian cheered as the project progressed (laking tulong wiw).

Here’s the final output:

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The Fab Four on My Wall

We had pizza delivered courtesy of yours truly when the project was completed. It was my simple way of expressing my gratitude because another item was crossed off my bucket list. More creative works and family projects to come!

Production Team

Creative Director: Airen Jem (Panganay)

Artists: Andrew Joseph (Bunso) and Papa

Painters: Jenniza Anne (Second), Andrew Joseph, and Joshua Aaron (Fifth)

Personal Assistants: Mama and Mommy (Grandmother)

Fans: John Adrian (Third) and Angelica Joyce (Fourth)

13 The Beatles Lyrics in Hand Lettering (a.k.a. My First Attempt at Hand Lettering After So Many Years)

Here’s a disclaimer: I am not, by any means, a pro. I used to go gaga over this craft when I was a kid–I was sort of an artistic person back then. I was into drawing, lettering, and writing, but then life happened. Oh well.

Then one day, one random person started posting artworks on social media with the hashtags #BrushLettering #HandLettering #FauxCalligraphy #Typography. And like how all things go these days, the hashtag spread all over the world and many people, millennials and cool kids especially, started jumping on the bandwagon.15320347_1300405570009834_37482069_n-2

I am one of those people. Ew.

I started practicing on the back of my mini notebook using a ballpoint pen, but my interest went a notch higher when I stumbled upon this double highlighter pen set at the supermarket. The brand name was written in Chinese, so I couldn’t exactly tell you what it was. Anyway, here’s a picture to give you an idea.

The level of15310676_1300405520009839_295271850_n-3 my interest went from 1 to 1.5, so I bought this “Light Journal: Colorful Diary Series” with the caption “There Is No More Lightness Light Planner Is Useful Design for Common People” (lol mind you’re own grammar ka (c)Kenya) and turned it into a scratchpad. The brand name was also written in Chinese.

Like any normal journal, it has lines and dates, so it’s not really the best “scratch pad” to use when practicing. But then again, I’m just practicing so I really don’t care about those lines.

To give you an idea of who I am and how I work, I am an eternally lazy person. I hate processes, memorization, reviewing, etc. I am spontaneous, but I don’t think that’s good because I am not a pro. But at the end of the day, I will always choose to be spontaneous because it’s easier that way.

What’s the catch? I don’t use pencil and drafts when it comes to most things (blogging, sketching, lettering, writing, etc.) Most of the time, when an idea hits me, I would put it into paper immediately because my short-term memory sucks and I HATE EDITING. Here are the results of my laziness (pardon the quality of photos #PoorBloggerProblems):

Strawberry Fields Forever

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Blackbird

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All You Need Is Love

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Till There Was You

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Golden Slumbers

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Let It Be

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The End

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Last Thursday, my college friends and I went to Robinson’s Place Manila. I came a bit early, so I had extra time to spare. I went to National Bookstore and found this book called The ABCs of Hand Lettering by Abbey Sy. I instantly got an idea.

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I went to the pens section and saw this Artline Stix Brush Marker. Since I am into Legos and mini figures, I knew this was the perfect set for me. I didn’t care about the quality of the pens–all I cared about was the idea of attaching Legos on the pens.

Once I got home, I immediately tried the pens. There was nothing good about the quality because I think they were meant to be used by kids, but since I wasn’t going for the professional outcome, I didn’t give a damn. Really. I also almost regretted buying the book because I wasn’t able to use it. Yes, I browsed it for inspiration, but I didn’t even look at the samples when I did the lettering. Wiw.

And I Love Her

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Revolution

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Help

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Across the Universe

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Here, There and Everywhere

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As of writing, the level of my interest for this craft is 2/10. Perhaps I’ll use pencil and rulers for the drafts next time, or buy quality pens and a sketch pad for a more pro look. Until then, I’ll continue hand lettering to help my mind #relakksss.

This Is Why I Am a Die-Hard Fan of The Beatles

More than 55 years ago, millions of youngsters from across the world suffered from a contagious disease called Beatlemania. Five decades later, a 21-year-old girl still goes gaga over the four young lads who shook the world.

Sure, there are hundreds of rock bands from the local and foreign music scenes, but The Beatles ignited a fire within me that all the others can’t give. When people discover for the first time that I have fallen head over heels for The Beatles, their first reaction is always, “Are you serious?” Yes, I have been, I am still, and I will always be.

Their Songs Never Get Old

I grew up hearing so many The Beatles songs and I was not even aware of it. I didn’t realize this until recently when I streamed an online music station for six consecutive days and listened to all of their songs. Surprisingly, I found out that I have already heard most of it.

I hear their songs everywhere I go. My father loves The Beatles and he plays some of their songs occasionally, and maybe that’s how I picked up some of the lines and melodies when I was younger. My uncles and grandfather were fans too. Not the die-hard kind of fan, but they like the songs of the band enough to be considered as a fan. On Sundays, radio stations and our neighbors play old songs, and more often than not, their Sunday playlists include three or four songs of The Beatles.

The music of these legends remained even after two of them passed away. I can’t imagine a time when people will stop listening to their songs–they have left a legacy that no other band can surpass. Their songs will follow you wherever you go–they are timeless classics that will never get old and out of style.

They Tell Me Things I Want to Hear

As a wordsmith, I listen to songs mostly because I like the lyrics and the meaning behind them. I became obsessed with the songs of The Beatles because they made me understand and get to know how men’s brains work. If Taylor Swift writes about how most women feel and think, The Beatles wrote about how most men feel and think. I know that things are a lot different during their time, but if there’s one thing that did not change, it’s how men feel and think about women and life in general.

A Hard Day’s Night is about what most men want to get from their partner after a long day at work. Please Please Me is about the unspoken feelings of a man who wants his girl to please him in bed. If I Fell shows how insecure a man can be when falling in love. These are just examples but you get the point.

Apart from these songs, I like how their love songs were just the right kind of romantic. If I were to be serenaded by a man, I’d like him to sing The Beatles songs like And I Love Her, Here, There and Everywhere, Woman (okay this is a Lennon song but still), I Will, and Till There Was You (okay just a cover but STILL, I like their version better). In short, they tell me things I want to hear.

Their Good Looks Are Just Too Hard to Resist

You know how kids and most millennials these days react when they see new boy bands with members that are too good-looking? OR, you know how the Beatlemaniacs back then screamed, hyperventilated, and fainted at the mere sight of these four young lads? I was once like them, too. As sloppy as it sounds, there was a phase in my life where I became so obsessed with The Beatles because of their good looks that are just too hard to resist. Yes, a part of me still loved their songs during those times, but mostly, my obsession was about their looks.

To be honest, I first fell in love with Paul because he obviously has the most beautiful physical features. After some time, I became more attracted to the face of John and I am still. For months, I raved about the Fab Four’s good looks, even telling other people that the One Direction band that they patronize today is nothing compared to The Beatles, which is pointless and unreasonable because the two bands are simply not the same. Forgive me, I was young and dumb.

There’s Always Something New to Fangirl About

Unlike other self-proclaimed Beatlemaniacs, my obsession with the band doesn’t stop with listening to their songs, which are quite too many, to be honest. I research and watch their videos a lot during my free time that I was even disappointed when Eight Days a Week: The Touring Years, Ron Howard’s documentary, was released. The tagline of the film was “The Band You Know, The Story You Don’t” so I expected to see a lot of fresh information about the band. Sadly, most of the clips and facts there (except the full-length, digitalized Shea Stadium concert, of course) are common knowledge to die-hard Beatles fans. I guess I set my expectations too high that I forgot to note that only Paul and Ringo are alive. So, if Ron Howard would present unheard of stories, these stories could only come from the two living band members who were also the speaking heads in the film.

However, that film was only about their touring years. Even though I know a lot about these four lads already, there is still so much more to learn about their life and music.

I guess that’s the best thing about fangirling over a band fifty years after they took over the world–so much has happened in this span of time that you won’t be able to keep up even if you spend most of your time researching. Luckily for me, the internet gives me access to a lot of reading materials. Whether true or not, these fresh stories and details keep the Beatlemaniac fire inside of me burning.

They Make Me Feel Like I Belong

Have you ever felt like you were born in the wrong generation? Like when you read a classic novel or heard a classic song and you really wished you were born when the authors or singers were still alive? I do. All the time.

When it first dawned on me (like really dawned) that John and George were dead already, I cried. I know my reaction was 30 years late, but I cried as hard as the fans of Christina Grimmie did when she was shot earlier this year. I cried like I did when Alan Rickman died. I cried because I couldn’t believe it; perhaps I was still in denial. They sound so real when I hear their voice and they look so full of life when I see them in videos, even in black and white. To me, they are not dead; they are just too distant, too far from me like so many foreign artists and singers that I can’t reach. But they do make me feel like I belong.

As an introvert, I’d rather interact with people in my head than with people in front of me. I dislike going to movie theaters to watch mainstream movies as well as going to gigs to watch mainstream bands because I don’t want to bump into annoying people. In other words, I hate jumping on the bandwagon. Being a fan of The Beatles turned my world upside down.

Now, I am a member of a Facebook group called The Beatles Universe. It feels good to interact with people who are not my age but understands my love and passion for something. I learn a lot from them and guess what? Most of them are seniors! Unlike other fan groups, they are not pretentious; they are really, madly, truly, crazily passionate about The Beatles and that’s exactly why I love them.

Just recently, I attended a tribute gig organized by my fellow Filipino Beatlemaniacs where we rocked and rolled to the beat of The Beatles’ timeless classics. There were only a few of us who came to witness the show, but it was fun because we all shared the same passion and love for the band.

The Beatles opened up a whole new world that I consider as my place of solace, and it’s always ready to take me in whenever I want to escape reality. This band makes me feel like I belong. Thank you, John, Paul, George, and Ringo for being there for me when no one else was. You shook my world just like how you did more than 55 years ago.

*Featured photo used not mine

Beatlemaniacs, Booze, and Boyfriend: My The Beatles Tribute Night Experience

I was among the lucky ones who were given the chance to rock and roll to the beat of The Beatles’ timeless classics on the third volume of A Hard Day’s Night, a gig organized by Ilustrados. It was a tribute night for the four young lads who shook the world where Beatlemaniacs came together to let their hair down and sing along to the Fab Four’s hits.

Last February, my boyfriend and I also came to witness the volume two of this event, which was held at Troika. When we saw Ilustrados’ Facebook post about the third volume, we knew that we just found the perfect place to be for our date night. Because what could be better than a night spent with your boyfriend? A Beatles tribute night with booze and him, of course.

Beatlemaniacs Come Together to Witness Ilustrados’ A Hard Day’s Night Vol. 3

Photo Source: Ilustrados’ event page

Howard Luistro of Oh, Flamingo opened the event with Mother Nature’s Son, a heartwarming song from The White Album. It was followed by And I Love Her, a romantic McCartney song that never gets old. His playlist included the following songs in particular order:

  • Mother Nature’s Son
  • And I Love Her
  • Anna (Go With Him)
  • You Never Give Me Your Money
  • Penny Lane
  • No Reply
  • I Need You
  • All I’ve Got to Do
  • Norwegian Wood
  • Happiness Is a Warm Gun
  • Blackbird

Using his ukelele, Benny Giron of the BennyBunnyBand rocked the stage with a wild rendition of Why Don’t We Do It in The Road. Benny said that his all-out performance drained the energy out of him, so the next song that he played was I’m So Tired. Nice segue, man. The songs he performed were as follows:

  • Why Don’t We Do It in the Road
  • I’m So Tired
  • I Will
  • Something
  • Till There Was You
  • While My Guitar Gently Weeps
  • Yer Blues

Benny’s stage-wrecking performance of John Lennon’s Yer Blues was followed by another high-energy performance by Kissling. Everything seemed to be impromptu with this band, with Jeremy Lopez quoting Howard that “Pwede naman hindi professional dito ‘di ba?” Still, singing along with our fellow Beatlemaniacs when the lead forgot the lyrics was fun. Kissling’s playlist included the following songs:

  • Day Tripper
  • Please Mister Postman
  • Words of Love
  • I’m Only Sleeping
  • Can’t Buy Me Love
  • In Spite of All the Danger
  • Here, There, and Everywhere
  • Rain
  • Ask Me Why
  • Revolution
  • The Continuing Story of Bungalow Bill

After several rock performances from the two previous acts, Ian Penn (Rafael Pena) serenaded the crowd with acoustic songs from different albums. He started off with Michelle for a warm up, followed by In My Life, which got the crowd singing, and Across the Universe, which set the mood for his entire act. The song was followed by four more feel-good, if not melancholic, songs by the Fab Four. The songs he performed were:

  • Michelle
  • In My Life
  • Across the Universe
  • For No One
  • Oh My Love
  • Dear Prudence 
  • Here Comes the Sun

The steady flow of sentimental songs was disrupted (in a good way) when Strange Creatures entered the scene. After Ian Penn’s beautiful rendition of Here Comes the Sun, I’d say there’s no better way to lift the mood of the crowd than by playing Eight Days a Week. The songs they played were:

  • Eight Days a Week
  • Baby’s in Black
  • Ticket to Ride
  • Two of Us
  • Strawberry Fields
  • If I Fell
  • Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds
  • Girl
  • She Loves You

Jeremy Lopez, Ian Penn, Benny Giron, Carl Juliano of The Subspring, and Jon Tamayo shared the stage to close the event with eight Beatles classics, which got us banging our heads, dancing to the beat, and singing our hearts out. This part was what we all looked forward to the most in this event and these guys did not fail us. Come Together was an amazing song choice, although the singers (and the crowd, too) forgot some lyrics. Because seriously, who cares? Even John Lennon forgot the lyrics during some of his live performances. The playlist consisted of the following songs:

  • Come Together
  • Don’t Let Me Down
  • Twist and Shout
  • I Wanna Hold Your Hand
  • Oh Darling
  • Let It Be
  • Abbey Road Medley (Golden Slumbers/Carry That Weight/ The End)
  • Hey Jude

As expected, they closed the event with a longggggg rendition of Hey Jude because nananana.  If they played another song after that, we didn’t know. My boyfriend and I went home at 1:30 AM. We got a good night’s sleep, with me dreaming that there will be a fourth volume to this event.

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13 Rare Songs of Taylor Swift That Would Make the Perfect “Unreleased” Album

I’ve been a die-hard Swiftie ever since I first heard Teardrops on My Guitar on my aunt’s desktop computer way back in 2007. I was only 12 years old back then. Fast forward to 2016 when Taylor has had too many ex-boyfriends, has made a bad blood with different celebrities, and has changed her genre from country to pop, I still go gaga whenever she releases a new album or song. I guess that’s true love.

As a certified Swiftie, I take pride in the fact that I know something that normal people don’t: Taylor Swift’s unreleased or rare songs. I guess majority of Swifties would agree with me when I say that I would trade all the fancy things in life just to hear Taylor say that she will release an “Unreleased” album.

I know it doesn’t make sense because the songs were not called unreleased for no reason, but to see this “Unreleased” album come to life is a dream come true for every Swiftie.

“To see this ‘Unreleased’ album come to life is a dream come true for every Swiftie.”

I asked some of my fellow Swifties a question: If Taylor were to release an album with her rare songs on it, which ones would you like to see on the list? Find out the results on the list below.

13. Thirteen Blocks (Can’t Call It Love)

“Only thirteen blocks across this town to make up my mind

So I best be driving slow on my way to letting go”

I don’t think this would not be a legit list if I didn’t put Thirteen Blocks on the 13th spot. This song is about unrequited love–how a girl suddenly realizes that she “can’t call it love” if the other one is “ain’t in it.” I love how Tay used Thirteen Blocks as a metaphor for how limited her time is to decide if she’s ready to let go. It’s the song that every Swiftie should listen to when having second thoughts about letting go of a boy who doesn’t deserve your love. If I were you, I would take it from Tay: if the feeling ain’t strong, just move on and leave it in your past.

12. Permanent Marker

“X is the shape I drew through your face in permanent marker”

Permanent Marker is one of those songs that remind you that you wouldn’t want to have a bad blood with Taylor. Hurt her and she’ll write a song about you that would make you want to disappear from the world forever because I’m pretty sure that the spotlight would be on you for quite a long time. This is the Picture to Burn and Better Than Revenge of the Unreleased album.

11. Writing Songs About You

“I can’t wait for the day I stop pretending

That I’m really okay when I’m not

I wanna know how it feels to be

Over you for real

Until I do, I’ll keep writing songs about you”

Have you ever wondered why Taylor is gifted with songwriting skills? I mean, how can a human being as young as 14 years old write beautiful country songs about love, life, and heartbreak?

Well, I don’t. Knowing Tay, I guess she uses her heartbreaks as inspiration and turns her mess into a message to inspire us or, most of the time, make us cry through her songs. Writing Songs About You is the perfect example of this. It speaks about her heartache in a light way, bringing a message full of hope in the end.

10. Being With My Baby

“Ohh, life’s so sweet right here

Ohh, keeping it young and crazy

Ohh, just wanna stay right here

‘Cause nothing’s quite like being with my baby”

Now that’s the Taylor Swift that we all first fell in love with–the young country girl who loves to tell life and love stories in detail through her catchy songs. ‘Nuff said.

9. Better Off

“All my friends are saying,

‘Girl, what are you thinking?’

You’re better off, you’re better off without him”

If you haven’t heard the song yet and you see the title and the lyrics above, you’d think Better Off is about a stupid girl who fell in love with a douchebag. Truth is, this song is like Ours. You know how people throw rocks at things that shine? That’s it. The song ends with the guy saying “we don’t have to do things their way.” It’s about two people who choose to stay in love despite the many obstacles that come their way.

8. Never Mind

“All I really want to do is be next to you

But I’m too tired to fight

And I could tell you now

But then never mind”

What happens when you love someone you can’t have? You go crazy and cry. But when you’re too tired to fight like the Taylor in this song, listen to Never Mind and cry harder. Go ahead and hurt yourself even more. Because, after all, you’d rather be alone than lose him, right? The song is heartbreaking like that.

7. This Is Really Happening

“Tell me

You’ll never leave me

And I’m not crazy

And this is really happening”

Remember that time when you’re crazy in love that you feel like you are on cloud nine and you’re wondering if this is really happening or not? It’s all those wonderful things that happen when you’re in love rolled into one song. I bet you’d replay those moments in your head while playing this on repeat.

6. Dark Blue Tennessee

“Missing you like this is such sweet sorrow

Won’t you come back to me?”

It’s just a short little song, but it will let you feel all the bitterness that comes from getting left behind by someone you love so much. Dark Blue Tennessee is like All Too Well played on piano, only shorter.

5. Diary of Me 

“What you get is what you see

Baby, you hold the key

To the diary of me”

If there’s one song that would best describe Taylor, it would be Diary of Me. Each line reveals what she’s like in real life. And oh, did I mention she’s an open book? Yes, and what we get is what we see. Just one of the million reasons why we love this angel-devil, mission rebel who sometimes get temperamental.

4. I Need You Now

“I need you now

Red letters that I wrote on the wall

And the message that I left when I called”

It’s the song you should listen to if you’re longing for someone who left you hanging because Taylor’s got a message for you: you are a strong, beautiful girl and even though your world’s a little colder now, know that you’ll get warm somehow.

3. One Thing

“I want you back but it’s coming down to nothing”

When it’s time to let go of that one thing that you thought would never leave, never turn back. After all, it doesn’t always happen like it does in the movies. It’s painful to listen to, but the fact that we all can relate to her lyrics is one of the best things about Taylor Swift.

2. By The Way

“By the way

My heart’s still breaking

It’s gonna take me a while to love again”

Again, this is one of those songs that make you wonder how Taylor can write painstakingly amazing songs about heartbreak and love. She must have been really hurt to be able to write a song as heart-wrenching as this. I remember that I’ve had a phase in my life when I broke up with my boyfriend and whenever I listened to this song, I literally broke down and cried. I was only 14 then and I always pictured my ex with his new girlfriend at the school hallways whenever I listened to this.

It’s beautiful because I think it’s one of her most tragic rare songs. Unlike Permanent Marker, Thirteen Blocks, and I Need You Now where the girl eventually gets the courage to move on, the girl on this one is still clinging to the idea of picking up where they left off. It’s sad because when you think about it, most of us are like this girl after a breakup–still wondering about the what ifs and still not ready to move on and love again.

1. Sweet Tea and God’s Graces

“You can love like a sinner and lose like a winner

Nothing’s shatterproof

You can crash and burn and come back someone new

That’s what I learned from you”

Talk about the rainbow after the rain. If you’re in the mood for a song full of hope, Sweet Tea and God’s Graces is all things wonderful rolled into one. It tells us that it’s okay to get hurt because, in the end, our heartbreaks will teach us life lessons in ways far more than we can imagine.

“Our heartbreaks will teach us lessons in life in ways far more than we can imagine.”

Believe Tay when she says those nights when you cry yourself to sleep will make you a stronger person after the storm. She’s been there too many times. Now look at her: still beautiful and brave and amazing and kind and perfect. If Taylor didn’t experience those downfalls,  she could never have written these amazing songs. It would never be the same.

So, just like Tay, use your heartbreaks as inspiration to keep moving forward. Keep this in mind, Swifties: nothing’s shatterproof but you’ll get by with a cup of sweet tea and God’s graces.

“Nothing’s shatterproof but you’ll get by with a cup of sweet tea and God’s graces.”

*Featured photo used not mine